you don't understand...

after another one of our so-called deep conversations, helga and i came up with a marvellous topic. well it's not really innovative or new...it's just another aspect of that topic we all like to talk about...relationships.

now...helga often gets the following things said to her...

"you don't understand you're not in a relationship"
"it's different when you are in a relationship"
"you'll think differently when you are in a relationship"
and so on and so on....you get the drift.

WELL, yours truly happens to be in a relationship...and the last time i checked...my mental facilities were still intact. so now that the opening into a whole load of waffle has been set...let us begin. ok, so you wonder how the dysfunctional man-hater happens to be in a relationship...well that's besides the point. my point is that your whole being does not change just because you're dating someone. isn't that person dating you for who you are? not the person you supposedly "change" into when you begin dating?

it all comes down to the individual and how they act/react when in a relationship. but the way a single person acts/reacts in the same situation isn't necessarily wrong. it's just a different opinion...an alternative solution one may draw on if need be. we ask our friends for their view on a particular matter because we value their opinion, not because we want them to say what we want to hear.

the last time i checked, the only thing separating me from being single and being in a relationship was spending a lot more time with someone. my opinions don't change...and my friends don't change. for everyone's sanity, let's hope it stays that way.

olga's song for the day: wasting time [thirsty merc]