hello, hello, oh hello!
wow i can really churn out blog posts when i don't want to study. such is the art of procrastination. anyhow, shall we begin then?
i was thinking about this at work...now you all know how brain stimulating selling clothes is. when people greet each other...like either for the first time or something like that...what is the appropriate way to do it? it ranges from handshakes, to hugs, to cheek kissing. tonight's focus will be cheek kissing...because i said so!
i for one am NOT a cheek kisser. i'm ok with being cheek kissed or air kissed or whatever you call it. BUT what i want to know is...is it a part of your personality to do that? i mean so many things could go wrong. you could both misjudge it and end up kissing each other on the lips (not especially pleasant if it's a girl-girl situation...but not so bad if it's one of your hot guy friends). do you just lean in and air kiss when you say hello? what happens if the other person leans back? REJECTED.
and then, there are so many ways it could go. if a guy friend cheek kisses you...is it just a mate thing? i don't see many guys cheek kissing their other guy friends. now that's something i'd like to see. or is it just like copping a cheap feel...just in the form of a cheek kiss? a friend once told me..."cheek kissing leads to kissing on the lips leads to kissing...." well i'm sure you can work it out.
ANYWAY, i want to know what the deal is. cheek kissing DOES come across as hoity toity upper class stuff. if it was uncomfortable to return this ritual...how does one refuse politely? is there any possible way to refuse a cheek kiss? i just don't get it. i prefer to get a genuine "hello" hug than a cheek kiss. even though cheek kisses seem more than hugs because they involve cheeks and lips...they come across as kinda pretentious...and belonging to a social custom that i don't really want to be a part of.
give me a big genuine suffocating hug any day of the week.
olga's song of the day: i just wanna live [good charlotte]
i was thinking about this at work...now you all know how brain stimulating selling clothes is. when people greet each other...like either for the first time or something like that...what is the appropriate way to do it? it ranges from handshakes, to hugs, to cheek kissing. tonight's focus will be cheek kissing...because i said so!
i for one am NOT a cheek kisser. i'm ok with being cheek kissed or air kissed or whatever you call it. BUT what i want to know is...is it a part of your personality to do that? i mean so many things could go wrong. you could both misjudge it and end up kissing each other on the lips (not especially pleasant if it's a girl-girl situation...but not so bad if it's one of your hot guy friends). do you just lean in and air kiss when you say hello? what happens if the other person leans back? REJECTED.
and then, there are so many ways it could go. if a guy friend cheek kisses you...is it just a mate thing? i don't see many guys cheek kissing their other guy friends. now that's something i'd like to see. or is it just like copping a cheap feel...just in the form of a cheek kiss? a friend once told me..."cheek kissing leads to kissing on the lips leads to kissing...." well i'm sure you can work it out.
ANYWAY, i want to know what the deal is. cheek kissing DOES come across as hoity toity upper class stuff. if it was uncomfortable to return this ritual...how does one refuse politely? is there any possible way to refuse a cheek kiss? i just don't get it. i prefer to get a genuine "hello" hug than a cheek kiss. even though cheek kisses seem more than hugs because they involve cheeks and lips...they come across as kinda pretentious...and belonging to a social custom that i don't really want to be a part of.
give me a big genuine suffocating hug any day of the week.
olga's song of the day: i just wanna live [good charlotte]
posted by viking_mistresses at 11:10 PM
6 Comments:
I don't think there's any possible nice way to refuse a cheek kiss. Whatever you do, the other party will feel rejected and foolish.
What you CAN do though, is before the other party has the chance to initiate a cheek kiss, you move in and initiate a hug. If done right, your head/cheek will be too far pass their lips that a cheek kiss is impossible.
Your right about cheek kisses not being as intimate as a hug though. It is quite pretentious. I guess because the upper class see public intimate physical contact as unbecoming, and hence created the cheek kiss. I dunno, I'm talking outta my arse now.
And no, you won't ever find a guy who gives another guy a cheek kiss, or even a hug (unless they are gay). Girls do it all the time though (yay!). Actually I don't really know any guy that would initiate a cheek kiss with a girl. Most of the time it's either the girl initiates it, or it's just habit between the two ppl. I know many more guys that initiate hugs. Though, that might just be the crowd I hang around with. :o
i dare you to name one "hot guy friend" that we know off that you are willing to accept a cheek kiss from.
and i know the perfect way to reject such a situation...or any situation of any kind..."GET THAT THING AWAY FROM ME"
Okay, I had a bit to drink tonight so I guess...my wisdom will reach only so far...
A big genuine suffocating hug is great...its deep and meaningful...
But back to your topic of cheek kissing...
firstly to correct Jon, of coz there are guyz who cheek kisses each other....many Italians do so...its the cultural aspect...
But back to the social aspect...
moments where I have employed cheek kissing tatics:
1. You haven't seen ur friend (female) for a long time...a cheek kiss is definately needed...
2. Saying goodbye to someone you might not see in an unforseeable time frame...
3. Celebrational situation...eg. b'days, NYE, Christmas, must employ cheek kiss.
But I don't realli see a point of empolying a cheek kiss outside of these situation. What the hell is the point of giving ur female friend a cheek kiss when you get to see them every freakin day or so...you see them so much ... the last thing you wanna do is to form ne form of kissing contact.
It also depends on how comfortable you feel with the person to give them a cheek kiss...there are friends of yours who you've known for yonks and it'll be weird to have any form of kissing contact with them, esp if they have bfs!!...haha...Personally I have friends that I will never hug...for obvious reasons.
And to Jon's point again...going for a hug to avoid a cheek kiss...haha...
that shit doesn't work...when someone is willing to give another person a cheek kiss...whether or not the hug is in action, the cheek kiss...or maybe...slightly pass the cheek kiss will happen whether they like it or not.
Personally a cheek kiss n a hug is the ultimate combo...if done right...it can be both intimate and meaningful...also respectful and lavident.
Who ever told you cheek kiss leads to lip kissing anne? hahaha....silly silly girl.
[quote] moments where I have employed cheek kissing tatics:
1. You haven't seen ur friend (female) for a long time...a cheek kiss is definately needed...
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isn't this a bit presumptious (i don't really know the meaning of the word but it sounds good in this question??
i mean if you haven't seen this chick friend for a long time and then when you do and you go in for a cheek kiss that's like invading their personal space or something. wouldn't a big "HELLO!!" or "HEY!!!" be more appropriate.
still waiting on that willing guy friend thingy anne...
if i said, then it wouldn't be fun anymore, would it? -smirks-
[olga]
Firstly its presumptuous...damn McFobz!
Its not presumptuous at all! A cheek kiss to a friend you haven't seen for a while is just a sign of respect of friendship to that person.
Again I point to that fact that it depends on how comfortable you feel towards to that person.
Its also being how comfortable u r with yourself, if a guy is too sissy to give a chic a cheek kiss...den that MF has some serious confidence issues.
MFs...I'm out.
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