new beginnings
i am sitting here contemplating the complexities in life. actually i'm just procrastinating because i don't want to do any work. what better way to waste some time than to blog. ALTHOUGH blogging is quite thought provoking.
so...what is forgiveness all about? there's forgiving your friend for dragging you around a shopping centre for hours...and there's forgiving a guy for being an absolute bastard to you (sorry, it's been awhile and i had to add it in somewhere!)...and then there's forgiving someone for betraying your trust and friendship. can we ever really forgive someone who has wronged us? i say the answer is yes...and no. that old saying "forgive and forget" may be true...but i guess it depends on how bad the action was.
a friend once told me that i had the ability to forgive easily and move on. yes, scoff all you may. cos i sure did when i was told this. but to tell you the truth, i find holding a grudge against someone a complete waste of time and energy. this isn't to say that i forgive everyone in sight...because i don't. there's a fine line between forgiving someone...and moving on past the so-called incident and getting on with life. ok now i'm confusing myself.
so the moral of the story is that it's ok if you don't forgive someone for something. it's not like i can preach about being all forgiving...because i can hold a pretty mean grudge if provoked. but sometimes salvaging a friendship out of the ruins of whatever happened is sometimes that much more worth it. and thus ends my attempt at being philosophical.
olga's song for the day: dakota [stereophonics]
so...what is forgiveness all about? there's forgiving your friend for dragging you around a shopping centre for hours...and there's forgiving a guy for being an absolute bastard to you (sorry, it's been awhile and i had to add it in somewhere!)...and then there's forgiving someone for betraying your trust and friendship. can we ever really forgive someone who has wronged us? i say the answer is yes...and no. that old saying "forgive and forget" may be true...but i guess it depends on how bad the action was.
a friend once told me that i had the ability to forgive easily and move on. yes, scoff all you may. cos i sure did when i was told this. but to tell you the truth, i find holding a grudge against someone a complete waste of time and energy. this isn't to say that i forgive everyone in sight...because i don't. there's a fine line between forgiving someone...and moving on past the so-called incident and getting on with life. ok now i'm confusing myself.
so the moral of the story is that it's ok if you don't forgive someone for something. it's not like i can preach about being all forgiving...because i can hold a pretty mean grudge if provoked. but sometimes salvaging a friendship out of the ruins of whatever happened is sometimes that much more worth it. and thus ends my attempt at being philosophical.
olga's song for the day: dakota [stereophonics]
posted by viking_mistresses at 10:33 PM
2 Comments:
But is the effort you put into salvaging a friendship worth more than if you put that effort into forging a totally new friendship? Are we just trying to hold onto the past when we struggle to keep a floundering friendship going? I don't know the answer to that.
Holding a grudge will only screw urself up mentally and maybe physically...
Holding a grudge is a waste of time, but at the same time, it doesn't mean u have to forgive the person...
in the end...a grudge is not worth holding on to...if you really hate the person...get it over with by getting even.... =)
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